by Kathy Brasby | Dec 17, 2018 | Leadership
Once I was discussing superstitions with a co-worker who mocked anyone trusting in superstitions.
“I just don’t get it,” she said. “Black cats. Ladders. All that stuff. I don’t get it. Except for spilled salt, of course.”
Spilled salt?
“Well, yeah, when you spill salt, you toss some over your shoulder, or you’ll have bad luck.”’
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We live in a superstitious age. We have lucky shirts. We knock on wood to keep away a bad idea.
Superstitions are generally accepted. Think about the athlete who hasn’t shaved for weeks while his team is on a winning streak. Or the one who has to get new socks because her team is losing.
Although I’m not sure what force needs a beard or new socks to influence a game, many people trust those things.
Those beliefs can get modified from a “sure, why not?” effort to a rigid rule in time. That challenges a leader.
Christian leaders may see these rules in several ways. A man writes a check to his church, expecting to get a better job in return. A woman gives up coffee – or new shoes or manicures, hoping to see her daughter in church next Sunday.
I knew a man who came to every church gathering for over a year because he wanted a better-paying job for his wife. When it didn’t happen, he told me that “God just didn’t work out for me.” He quit coming, and I imagine he’s trying a new plan.
People can buy into magical thinking. “If I do this thing, something will happen – or not happen.”
And what does a leader do?
First, what’s wrong with magic thinking? It seems pretty harmless on the whole. But leaders think bigger:
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Magical thinking keeps us from pursuing something that might really work.
Maybe the athlete should work on his technique rather than growing a beard. Maybe she needs better conditioning rather than new socks.
Magic thinking lets us take shortcuts that seem to work but don’t. I know, plenty will defend the broken-mirror/bad luck connection, but have they really charted out those seven years?
Rather than looking objectively at the circumstances, people indulge in magical thinking, which lets them see what they want to see.
So… superstitions keep us stuck
Magical thinking blinds us to the bigger picture.
The man who wanted his wife to find a better job had a worthy goal, but he didn’t look at the bigger picture. Maybe she was sabotaging job interviews because she had self-esteem issues. Maybe her job skills needed brushing up. Maybe her husband needed to go find a job to supplement the family income.
Maybe she was exactly where she belonged because it allowed her the time to care for her ailing mother.
There could be many more significant issues involved.
Magic thinking keeps people stuck. They resist joining a team effort. They ignore painful effects on their own family or their circle of influence.
A Christian leader wants to step in, to guide a person out of magical thinking and into wisdom.
How to do it? A man’s magical thinking drew Jesus in. And Jesus helped. We’ll take a look at that story from Jesus’ life next week.
Have you ever indulged in magical thinking? Do you find it helps you?
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by Kathy Brasby | Dec 10, 2018 | Jonah, Leadership
When we think of leaders, we tend to think of strong-willed people. If we’re generous, we call them courageous and vision-driven. If we’re not so impressed, we call them bossy and controlling.
And either impression can be accurate, depending on the leader. I tend to think of leaders as lions and I’ve met some lions that needed a little taming. They were bossy and controlling, not good traits for an effective leader.
Lion at Denver zoo
What does God do with strong-willed leaders? We might assume he uses them or we might assume that he operates with the idea of making the weak strong.
He does both.
I do want to remind you that we’re talking about ourselves as leaders, not someone else. It’s easy to look at another person and think, “Boy, do they need to learn to be less bossy.”
But what if that strong-willed leader is me? You? Strap on your adulting uniform and let’s plow forward.
How does God tame a strong-willed leader? Among our examples from the Bible is Jonah, who made quick decisions. Just not always the right ones.
Leaders need to be uncomfortable at times to learn
Those in leadership roles might assume they are fully trained, finally ready to lead. No leader is every complete. There’s more to learn and sometimes it comes through uncomfortable times.
Jonah’s story illustrates that. He assumed he heard God and was ready to step into the chief prophetic role. He could take over the process.
When his process took him away from God’s direction, God made him uncomfortable. In the whale. In the blistering heat.
The goal was to learn more about God’s nature.
Leaders remember the goal, not the process.
Need a new strategy for managing your team? Want a new catchphrase for looking like you’re going somewhere? Those are available everywhere. But do those pop strategies get you to your goal? Leaders remember the goal.
Sadly, Jonah missed God’s goal. He was interested in a process: speak God’s words to God’s people. He’d done that before, and it worked pretty well.
God’s goal was to draw people to himself. God showed compassion to the sailors and to the people of Nineveh. His goal was to bring them closer.
Jonah missed the goal.
Strong-willed leaders don’t always win.
When I was a child, I was pretty sure I could be more stubborn than anyone. I was sure that my will would win.
The best lesson I ever learned was that my mother could be more persistent than me. I lost to her. A lot.
Leaders need some humility. And the ability to listen. Our way is not always the best way.
Just because I could push an idea through did not mean it was the best notion.
Jonah had a chance to learn that lesson. Running away from a hated enemy seemed like a great plan. He had revenge, not restoration, in mind for Nineveh.
God pulled him back and showed him something new: that God has restoration in mind.
Strong-willed leaders are common. The term is almost redundant.
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QUESTION: Have you ever been a strong-willed leader? How has God reined you in?
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by Kathy Brasby | Dec 3, 2018 | Jonah, Leadership
Ever made a dumb mistake? Yeah, me, too.
I’ve always loved Megamind in the movie, who argued with Minion and finally concluded, “You were right. I was less right.”
We are sometimes less right, and we hope, like Minion, that someone will let us be more right.
I was a strong-willed child who spent my early years trying to do what I wanted to do. Strong-willed kids are like that. I was sure that no one could stand up to my will.
My mother opposed those wild ventures at every turn, so often that I remember asking her, “Why don’t you like me?”
“Oh, I like you all right,” she said. “I don’t like some of the stuff you do.”
For me, that was a second chance. All my shenanigans at least wouldn’t land me on the street. Mom hadn’t given up on me yet. There was still hope.
I think of that stubborn six-year-old when I think about Jonah.
He assumed God wouldn’t abandon him, either. God gave him second chances and he expected it. He did not expect second chances for those he thought unworthy. He knew he was worthy but others, well, he wasn’t convinced.
God, in pushing Jonah to go to Nineveh, was also pushing Jonah to grow in the idea of giving second chances.
Leaders resemble like Jonah sometimes. We like second chances in our own lives because we make mistakes. Others let us down? They’re out of here.
Why should a leader offer a second chance to someone who has either made a mistake or maybe willfully crossed a line?
Imperfect people can help.
Jonah is a great example. God can use imperfect people to accomplish impossible things.
In fact, a quick scan of the people in the Bible shows us that God used plenty of imperfect people. Some weren’t even trying to please God, and he still worked through them.
And he worked on them.
Jonah certainly didn’t climb on that boat to serve God. He wanted out of the assignment. But things didn’t go that simply.
God was going to teach about second chances: to the people of Nineveh, to the sailors on the boat, and to Jonah himself.
God uses imperfect people to accomplish great things and so should we. It’s good leadership.
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People can change.
That was probably the rub for Jonah: he had some idea this might be true. And he certainly didn’t want Nineveh to change. He had revenge in mind.
Leaders can’t forget that people change.
They don’t always, of course, but they can. And they do. Especially when others don’t give up on them.
This is one of the challenges of leadership. We might want to discard those who fall. We expect perfection – or at least a good try. Not everyone is up for that, at least not at first.
But given a second chance…. Well, it can work out pretty well sometimes.
Have you ever given someone a second chance that worked out well?
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by Kathy Brasby | Nov 26, 2018 | Leadership
This blog is about Christian leadership.
If you’re a Christian or even a person of faith, you’ll find that the Bible is packed with powerful leadership principles that apply to people today. I don’t plan to develop many leadership techniques. You can find methods all over the internet. I want to develop principles of good leadership.
I hope to show you what is behind a leader’s decisions, not how to carry them out. With solid principles in place as a foundation, implementation is the simpler part.
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These principles tend to work well, whether you’re a spiritual person or not.
Christian leaders:
Are other-focused.
This is a trendy statement at the moment, but it’s a principle from ancient times. Look at Moses. Look at Joseph. Look at Jesus. (And we will in future posts)Their goal was not to raise their own status but to serve other people.
Have a vision.
They have an idea where they are leading their people. They may not have the entire picture of the future (they often do not) but they have an idea of the goal. And they move ahead based on the goal, not necessarily the details.
Take the initiative.
They do not wait to be told to act. They move. They charge in and do something. They are often misunderstood, but they take action.
Are big-picture people.
They aren’t necessarily skilled administrators. They may not be organized, and they may not take care of details. But their vision is powerful, and they help others remember where they’re going. They remember the goal when others are confused and lost.
Trust others to help them reach the goal.
Leaders remember the goal but they are excellent at finding those who can help complete the tasks. They are not micromanagers or dictators. This is a result of being other-focused. They know who to trust and how to help others improve their abilities.
Ask others to do things that might be uncomfortable.
Reaching the goal is more important than keeping people comfortable. Leaders will ask their people to sacrifice or to take on a challenge. These things will help their people improve or gain something valuable.
Are OK with being uncomfortable.
Leaders don’t ask others to sacrifice where they won’t themselves. They are consumed with the vision. Personal comfort takes a back seat. They find fulfillment when they sacrifice for the greater good.
I will be developing these principles and more in future posts, and I plan to use stories from the Bible for direction.
Why use the Bible?
Because the stories are incredibly rich in showing how the interplay between people and their world works when following principles laid out by God.
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People of faith get off track often but God’s principles work. They draw us outside ourselves and to something bigger, more valuable, more uncomfortable, more fulfilling.
These stories tell us that concern for others trumps our own comforts. They draw us to the thin air of the mountaintop, but the world needs our leadership.
QUESTION: What are some of your leadership goals?
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by Kathy Brasby | Nov 19, 2018 | Jonah, Leadership
Leaders can get cocky. George Orwell explained the phenomenon well: “Power corrupts. Absolute power corrupts absolutely.”
Jonah had a lot of power. He heard God.
I remember as a child that I wanted to hear God so badly that I actually dreamt that it happened. In my dream, my mom and I were driving home, and God’s voice rang out with a deep sound that reminded me of our pastor. I was impressed.
I don’t remember what he said, but I remember the dream to this day.
Well, Jonah did better. He heard God and remembered what God said. And he relayed the message to the king of Israel. When the king of Israel was able to restore boundaries just like Jonah said he would, Jonah gained status.
He could add to his resume that he was a reliable prophet. He obviously thought he had the pipeline to God’s plans.
That’s pretty heady stuff.
Then Jonah heard God speak to him again.
But, like all of us, Jonah had biases. Jonah believed:
- God only worked in Israel for his chosen people.
- Jonah deserved the honor of being a prophet.
- Jonah knew God’s standard for evil better than God himself did.
- Ninevehites were enemies of Israel and therefore outside of God’s sphere.
- Nationalism trumped God’s mercy.
- The correct response to opposition is vengeance.
Jonah had it figured out, and he had no patience for God’s mercy.
We know that Jonah agreed to go to Nineveh and deliver God’s message. I’m surprised that he didn’t relish the job since, as far as he could tell, he was giving judgment.
I think Jonah had a sense that he was delivering a second chance. He didn’t approve, but he finally agreed to go.
How does this help us as leaders?
We can’t forget that we serve.
First, we serve God. Then we help his people.
God doesn’t limit himself to the projects that we prefer.
Leaders can have pet projects, but leadership isn’t limited to pet projects. Leaders need to think big. Leaders need to think worldwide as well as the community.
We should check our biases often.
We have them. Do they show God’s plans? The story about Nineveh teaches us that no one is outside God’s sphere.
Are we honest about God’s mercy?
Do we expect mercy for us in our circumstances but find it troublesome when extended to someone we don’t approve of?
Vengeance is never the right response
We may feel right about revenge, but leaders need to forgive and not retaliate. The correct answer to evil is not condemnation but compassion.
QUESTION: What biases have you met in your leadership journey? What can you do about one of them?
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