by Kathy Brasby | Aug 29, 2020 | Stories
Let me tell you a little bit about one project that I have been working on since March. I was asked to write a chapter for “Death, Where is Your Sting?” a new book from Shari Howard McMinn. The book comes out on August 30 – which is National Grief Awareness Day – and I’ll get you an Amazon link when the book is available.
In my chapter, I shared the story of my mother’s five-year battle after a massive stroke. She died in 2017 and writing this chapter helped me honor her memory.
I hope you’ll pick up the book when it’s available. Grief is not black despair. It is suffering, no question, but suffering often can re-shape our priorities. How many times have you heard of someone, upon losing a loved one, to encourage others to reach out to their loved ones? Priorities shift our outlook – and often give us more compassion to our loved ones as well as come alongside others grieving.
It’s good preparation and I encourage you to consider the book.
by Kathy Brasby | Mar 23, 2020 | Stories
I’ve enjoyed sharing some stories with you on this website but now I’m going to take a break for a while. I have several big projects looming and I want to get a handle on them. I hope to take the stories I’ve shared and compile them into a small book. You’ll hear about that when I get that goal done (another of my big projects.) Thanks for your encouragement. I’ll be sharing things from time to time so I hope you stay tuned.
by Kathy Brasby | Mar 16, 2020 | Humor, Stories
A friend recently asked me for advice about bringing a cat into her home. This alone put me on alert since my knowledge of cats is limited to our barn cats plus the kitten we rescued a few months ago.
Since our rescued kitten turned into a friendly but ferocious tiger (read that adventure here), my friend thought she ought to get input on the perfect kitten.
I offered to do the online search for her.
Typing in “How to find the perfect breed of cat” seemed like an appropriate search.
Sure enough, there are scads of cat breed selectors online. Okie-Dokie, I jumped right in.
The first question asked, “How energetic would your ideal cat be?” After our rescued kitten adventure, I opted for a relaxed vibe.
Next up was how vocal would this ideal cat be? I could visualize a cat howling on the backyard fence, so I choose rarely makes a peep.
So far, so good. On to personality traits. Hmmm, I thought my friend would enjoy calm and affectionate.
I also thought her ideal cat would like a mix of social time and alone time, so I checked that box.
My friend didn’t want a long-haired cat with all the loose hairs and she wasn’t interested in grooming much. I chose rarely or never on the grooming thing.
With anticipation, I clicked the button to reveal the perfect breed.
Sorry, no match was found.
So there’s no short-haired cat who is quiet, calm, affectionate, and can hang out alone or with somebody. I should have known.
I had to tell my friend that there is no perfect breed for her.
She didn’t fall for it. She’s not taking our little tiger anyway.
by Kathy Brasby | Mar 9, 2020 | Humor, Stories
“What do you think this says?” my husband studied a small box he’d lifted from the shelf at the grocery store. “Do you know any of these words?”
We were in a grocery store in Nogales, Mexico many years before Google Translate was available on our phones.
Translation was apparently my responsibility on this shopping excursion, so I browsed the ingredient list.
Browsed in the sense that I tried to put letters together to make words. I knew the letters, but I didn’t know the words.
“Well, this picture could have something to do with an antibiotic,” I said.
His frowned. “That picture could be a pumpkin for all I can tell.”
He was right. The printing was not clear.
We should have brought a translator, but the available ones weren’t available. They were tending to our son’s wounded knee.
Our family had come to Nogales for a week to repair a church building. Somehow, in the construction, our son’s knee had connected with something rough and hard. We had been sent in search of antibiotic cream while they cleaned the gash.
We went, confident that we were reasonably intelligent adults. A bit too optimistic since we were in a Spanish-speaking country where we didn’t know the word for antibiotic. We didn’t even know the word for first aid or bandage.
Finally, we settled on a slender box that appeared to have an image of a wound along with the brand name printed on the front plate. It could have been a logo of a whirlwind, too. We weren’t sure, but there was a tube in the box. Close enough for the clueless.
We took our find back to the church and handed the box over to the nurse. She pulled out the tube.
Sometimes you wish you had a translator and you don’t. Sometimes you have a translator and wished you didn’t.
She translated for us then. In between giggles.
Instead of buying antibiotic cream for our son’s knee, we’d picked up a tube of Preparation H.
by Kathy Brasby | Feb 17, 2020 | Family, Humor, Stories
Have you ever wondered why so many famous chefs are male? Me, too. I should have some insights because I have sons.
Let me explain.
Back in the day, pushing the beaters into my mixer was guaranteed to bring at least one family member into the kitchen. A lot like the cat when I pop the top of the can of food: focused. She can bring blood on her way to the food dish. The cat, I mean.
So I popped in the mixer beaters, and my four-year-old son appeared at my elbow. No blood. Yet.
“Let’s make shape cookies,” he said, pushing a chair to the counter.
The process of making shape cookies cutters was more complex. But this was a teaching moment for my young chef. I was proud he wanted me to teach him. Well, I was going to teach him whether he liked it or not.
We mixed our cookie dough.
“Now, we start with a ball, like this.” I scooped a handful of dough from the bowl and rolled it in my palms.
He watched intently, his nose drawing closer and closer to my hands. He was a good student, obviously impressed with my culinary skills.
“Then I put the ball on the counter,” I said.
I set the pale ball of dough lightly on the flour I had sprinkled out. The sweet scent of cookie dough filled the air. “We use a rolling pin to flatten the dough.”
He didn’t take his eyes off the ball of dough. I flattened the lump into a thin flat pancake and let him press the cookie cutters into it.
He selected a star. “That one looks like an explosion.” An explosion?
He was so creative. Did chefs frequently work explosions into their creations? Maybe that was how creme brûlée came into existence? To have an excuse to use a torch? A precursor to an explosion?
“I’ll do it this time,” he told me after the first batch was transferred to cookie sheets.
I took that to indicate the success of my teaching skills. He was ready for his first baby step as a chef. I was so proud.
He clutched a handful of dough from the bowl and squeezed it hard. Like a muscle man grasping a handgrip.
“Well, you might not…“ I started to coach him, but I was too late.
He slapped the crushed dough onto the counter and began pounding it with the side of his fist. Thud! Thud! A punching ball endured fewer strikes than that ball of dough. The mixture finally surrendered into an uneven flat lump of defeated cookie dough.
For me, baking cookies is about the aroma and flavor.
For my would-be chef, it was more about hand-to-hand combat.
by Kathy Brasby | Feb 10, 2020 | Family, Humor, Stories
If I know you and you drop by at mealtime, you’ll get an invitation to sit and eat with us. I really do mean it, but you might want to give it some thought before you jump in.
Or ask my nephew because he got to see my work first hand.
I had the best of intentions. And you know how those can go.
My nephew was a tall, strapping young man with a healthy appetite. I had prepared the meal for our family plus my nephew but decided we might be a tad bit short of food. I’d hate for him to pass out from lack of food before the next meal.
So I scoured the pantry for a can of something to add to the meal at the last minute.
I spied the can of grass jelly.
I had acquired this can from an oriental specialty market in Denver as part of a class project the year before. We had been assigned to purchase new cultural items and peruse unique foods.
We got to see live squid squirming in a glass aquarium at the back of the store. A large aquarium held goldfish (well, they looked like goldfish) that could be netted and bagged for the next meal.
We saw cans of exotic peppers and bags of noodles with unpronounceable names.
And cans of grass jelly.
My can ended up in the pantry. I mean, could you throw away a can of grass jelly when you never knew when you’d need it? Or what it was, for that matter.
Yeah, well, I hung onto it anyway.
Not knowing what I’d find inside, I pried off the lid. If it squirmed, I was dumping it. But inside was dark gelatinous material which reminded me of cranberry sauce in the can.
So I tipped the can and let the cylinder of jelly slide onto the plate. I sliced it like cranberry sauce and served it with the rest of the meal. This was not how to serve grass jelly but what did I know?
The plate with slices of grass jelly went around the table a couple of times, like I was trying to serve grass clippings rather than grass jelly.
“Be daring! Try it,” I said. This was before I tried it, but I always encourage bold action. Especially if I was safe.
My nephew twisted his mouth to one side.
“What is grass jelly?” he said.
“I don’t know. But it is food,” I assured him. Some kind of jelly seemed safe.
He nibbled the chunk on his fork. “Food?” He stopped eating. Teenage boys can label a styrofoam cup as food, so his question seemed odd. “This tastes like it was made out of motor oil.”
Everyone dumped their helping of grass jelly back on the serving plate. And that was the end of the grass jelly experiment.
Except my nephew won’t come to a meal at my house without checking my pantry.
